GOOD STRESS & BAD STRESS

Stress has certainly played it’s role in my life, given the problems it has caused. Stress can interfere with normal living, and damage your physical and mental health. When I am feeling stressed everything seems to be too much for me to deal with. I have had several health problems associated with stress such as:

• High Blood Pressure
• Increased Heart Rate
• Sleeplessness
• Muscle Aches and Pains, Tense
• Heart Attack Symptoms
• Poor Concentration
• Inability to Get Things Done

I had a negative response to challenges due to certain personal issues, which eventually had a negative effect on my health and happiness.

I now recognize stress, and self-treat stress by doing the following:

• Exercise
• Nutrition
• Relaxation Techniques
• Stress Management Techniques
• Going to School (Learning)
• Writing

I have learned the difference between good stress and bad stress. The good stress gets you energized, makes you take action, it actually improves performance, increases alertness, and motivates you to get things done.

Today I have taken steps towards achieving my goals personally, educationally, financially, and socially. I have taken the opportunity to write my beliefs, values, goals, and mission statement in these journals, to reflect on the positive, and forget the negative.

Values

Are your deepest feelings and thoughts about yourself and life. As we grew up, we were influenced by family, friends, religion, cultures, society, work, and school. This influence affects our values.  Values are what we have learned and what we think things ought to be or how people should behave.

• People who lead successful lives, live by certain values.
• People who are successful are always pursuing their full potential
• They focus on what they can achieve.

Values: We Value Peace & Family Security

• Acceptance
• Accomplishment
• Achievement
• Acknowledgement
• Advancement
• Affection
• Ambition
• Appreciation
• Approval
• Assurance
• Belonging
• Bravery
• Brilliance
• Calmness
• Capability
• Carefulness
• Certainty
• Challenge
• Change
• Cheerfulness
• Clear-Mindedness
• Commitment
• Competence
• Courtesy
• Dependability
• Desire
• And the list goes on

Self-Beliefs

Beliefs are the assumptions we have about ourselves, about others and about how we want things to be. Our beliefs and other people’s beliefs about us either positive or negative have a influence on how we behave.

Negative beliefs about ourselves influence our behavior. If I believe that I cannot find a job, then I will not be able to find a job. Positive beliefs enable us to focus on what we need to do to accomplish something such as finding a job.

If we change our beliefs we will change our behavior, and if we change our behavior, we will change our life. Self-belief is the foundation of success. We develop our self-belief little by little.

Improving our self-belief by recognizing our good qualities, and understanding our talents and abilities. Do what makes you happy, and encourage yourself to make the most of what life has to offer.

• Self-belief is the confidence and respect for our own abilities
• Circumstances do not change our self-beliefs
• I make my  own decisions
• I feel good about myself
• I have the power to change myself

The Fire Drill

“By the time I am sixty I will be able to wear a bikini, so as the male’s pass by they will say that I am a toothpick, and some may even say that I am thin as ice.”

Toothpicks and the Ice Stand

There were toothpicks in the center of the table wanting to be used as the day progressed for the wedding taking place, but no one was very interested in the toothpicks just sitting there, not being used and feeling lonely. There were a lot of entertainment music, raffles, presents, and dancing, but those toothpicks were still just sitting there, sad, feeling so lonely, rejected. There was this man sitting at his table without talking to anyone, just watching everyone, looking at the toothpicks, he would pick up the toothpicks, look at them and then put them back down, finally as he was looking at the toothpicks, a thought hit him, and then once again he picked up the toothpicks and this time started jabbing at the ice with the toothpicks, and then he decided to build a stand with the toothpicks to place the ice on top of. The project took this guy awhile to make because the stand was time consuming, and he used about one thousand toothpicks, but finally he finished the stand and then he placed the ice on the toothpicks, and he would just stare at the project he had been working on for approximately two hours, and then it hit him to put a toothpick on top of the ice with a bikini on top of the toothpick, like a flag. When this poor guy was completed with his creation, he ordered a drink and sat there smiling to himself, proud that he created the toothpicks and the ice stand, with a bikini on top of the toothpick.

• Number: 60
• Words: Bikini, Toothpick, Ice

Why Should I Keep A Journal

Journaling on the benefits of keeping a journal which is to keep a permanent record, and to release stress, or to leave a written record later for your children. The best way to get better at writing is to just keep doing it. Regular writing can help you to learn to communicate ideas effectively.

It can also help you to memorize important information, and brainstorm new ideas. In other words, writing about your experiences not only helps you process them, it helps you see opportunities that may not have been apparent at first glance.

Journaling is extremely useful to help you record thoughts, and transform those thoughts into action. By reading your previous journal entries you start to remember things and then are able to write further on the things that you remember, or you can expand on the things that you remember.

50 Things To Do To Feel Better

1. Take a Bath in Candle Light
2. Change your self-talk
3. Massage
4. Have your Hair Done
5. Go for a Bike Ride
6. Loosing Weight
7. Read a Book
8. Bake a Cake
9. Go Shopping
10. Overcome Self-Doubt
11. Go on a Harbor Cruise
12. Read to a Child
13. Call your Mother/Father
14. Smile
15. Put Lipstick on and Kiss the Mirror
16. Go out to Dinner
17. Write a Vision Statement
18. Listen to Music
19. Take a Nap
20. Change One Thing
21. Call your Sister/Brother
22. Learn Something New
23. Write a Love Note
24. Go to Church
25. Decorate
26. Take a Walk
27. A Compliment
28. Go to the Movies
29. A Night out on the Town
30. Prayer
31. Visit your Friends
32. List of Accomplishments
33. Make a Smoothie
34. Go to the Library
35. Spend the Day Alone
36. Set a Goal
37. Go to the Beach
38. Clean your House
39. Cheer Someone Up
40. Have a Party
41. Write a Children’s Book
42. Reward Yourself
43. Go Skating
44. Write a Poem
45. Go to the Mall
46. Plan a Picnic
47. Watch the Sunset
48. Go Swimming
49. Walk a Dog
50. Create a List of 20 Things You Like

Ancestors

Have you been looking for your family ancestors? Have you thought about your heritage, your roots, where and when it all began?

I have been trying to trace back my roots, and ancestors, and I have found that it is a difficult project, time consuming, and costs money, that is why I created this post, to not only gain the insight needed to accomplish this task, but also to offer suggestions to those of you facing the very same issues that I have faced, so that our efforts together bring great results.  

I selected the name ancestors in the atic because of the book, “flowers in the attic” for which I read the whole series by V.C. Andrews long time ago. When I was younger I really did not think that much about ancestors, and just enjoyed my life and friends. As I got older then the value of ancestors have set in my mind, and I decided to trace my family ancestors back.

It is a good idea to gather as much information from your parents and other family members first, then start the journey of researching your ancestors. One of the biggest challenges is the fact that so many people have the same names, and I have found during my research that even some of the same names for siblings as well.

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